You've Got A Friend in Me
On Friday October 28th I went to a Film Festival, and saw a documentary titled "Finding Kind". It's about social bullying, apologies, and most importantly: Friend Ship. I started really thinking about it, and I started thinking about what traits are of a true friend. We all have friends- but we need the ones that show the traits below. And in order to have one- we need to be one. Isn't it amazing that we can hold that happiness and belonging for other people? Please read this.
A True Friend
The secret of friendship is to be a good listener.
A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.
A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself.
A friend is someone who you think your life would be different if they didn't exist. A friend is someone who never leaves you out, you are always included when you are with them. And a friend is there for you nomatter what,
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen to rather share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing, and face us with the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.
Now, I really do agree with the last quote... And if you don`t... do you really know what it`s like to have a true friend? Please don't tell me you disagree to it, because it's meaningful and it's true. A real friend can be someone else, but that is one definition of a true friend.
A friend is... someone who is always there for us.
A friend is... someone we love dearly and unconditionally
A friend is... someone who always includes you
A friend is... someone who loves you for who you are
A friend is... someone who will not judge you.
A friend is... someone who will not be embarassed by you, but is just as crazy and eccentric as you are. And if they are not, they just love you and love hanging out with you anyways!
A friend is... The one who will stay on the phone with you crying at one in the morning.
A friend is... The one who stands up for you.
A friend is not... Someone who turns against you to be 'cool' or 'popular', but remains with you nomatter what.
A friend is not... Someone who doesn't acknowledge you when you walk up to them, but someone who starts a conversation, or gives you a smile, or shares one of those looks with you.
A friend is not... Someone who walks away from you, but who walks towards you.
A friend is not... Someone who deserts you in your time of need, but who feels your pain.
A friend is not... Someone who judges you, but someone who loves you just the way you are.
A friend is not... Someone who is friends with you to have friends, or to maintain their status, but because they love you.
A friend is not... Someone who treats you with politeness, but with someone who really laughs with you, who really gets to know you.
A friend is not... Someone who flirts with or steals your boyfriend, but yells at him for not doing something right.
A friendship is not to be dealt with lightly. It takes a lot of work and a lot of dedication. You need to make an effort, you need to show them that they are important. Because what you give is what you recieve- and if you don't recieve it they aren't a good friend. Don't be hesistant to be wrong, don't be afraid to apologize. Everyone needs a true friend. Without friends, who are we? We say, that whether we have friends or not, we are who we are and our happiness doesn't depend on other people. And that may be true part of the time, but not all of the time.
Be considerate of how others feel. You don't know what they are going through. You don't know the whole story.
Friends don't always want someone to give them advice or a solution- but instead just want to be listened to. To have someone to talk to and someone to just be there for someone.
Show people they are important- imclude them. Don't act like you are doing charity work, because people can sense that. It's not about doing it to be a good person. It's about doing it because you are a good person. Because you know how it feels. Because you like them.
And don't get me wrong- you don't have to like everyone. But we need mutual respect- we need to treat people kindly because we get nowhere without kindness.
And just because someone is mean to you, does not mean you can be mean back. Ignore them. Or retaliate my being kind- they can't be rude to you if you're being as sweet as sugar. And if they do react meanly- well it shows who's the better person, doesn't it? And people notice that.
So please take this to heart.
All people need is a friend.
~Written By Samantha Bellamy
Inspired by the Finding Kind Campaign